Why do men text you and then have you respond only for them to respond like a hundred hours later?

I sometimes do that because of anxiety. I just sort of shut down and take a lot of time to respond to things. It's some overwhelming feeling I'm having in my day. Just makes me block everything out. I get too many fucking notifications from my phone.

woman ghosted by multiple guys waiting for them to answer

literally stomach churning

Bro why don't you have 15 minutes of OC for me anon? Any time I text you I want to be entertained at least that long. Get a joke book and start writing.

Next.

to add on to OP:
every robot i've added from here never initiates convos with me, i always have to poke them first
what and why

same here and then the foid takes ages to reply

Maybe parallel time zones or she is one of who leave the app when they reply
It's never that serious
Anon..
You should at least inform them beforehand that you do that
It is what it is.

I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life than deal with any woman who speaks to that many guys or doesn't value my attention

i randomly message my every thought throughout the day to whoever im talking to

As a man, having it where women never initiate gets really frustrating (plus there's a concern that whenever you DO initiate conversation, she'll see that as you being desperate) and it also feels like she's not interested. So I prefer to let her initiate at least most of the time in order to (a) indicate that she's interested, (b) avoid coming off as too desperate, and (c) not have to play that stupid chase game where you always have to be the one initiating with her.

It's annoying, and when talking to guys I'll just message out of the blue all the time whenever I feel like it, but when talking to women you have to play those dumb games and consider that stuff carefully.

It's never that serious

Well that's the experience I've had. The more often you reply quickly to women, the more often you send the first message, the more likely they are to reply with shorter and shorter sentences and initiate conversations less and less often. You have to feign disinterest or they themselves lose interest.

I'm trying to get better at messaging first.

Women should stop texting me and start stabbing me

Here's an original idea.
Have you ever considered, getting a job?

I do it because I know you are obsessed

this took place over the course of years (after giving up the effort of trying to talk)
totally understand that otherwise tho
i am equally chatty but maybe they find that annoying idk
which is why i don't mind taking the lead initially because all of them were pretty shy
but after some point.. c'mon :[ it felt like they didn't care
its ok bb i understand that it can be difficult
i am EMPLOYED !!!

add me I'll autistically rant to you about stuff you have no clue about and never reply to anything you have to say

its ok bb i understand that it can be difficult

Especially since she said she doesn't like clingy guys. I dunno, I gotta figure out something to initiate with besides "how was your day" or something equally as bland.

this took place over the course of years (after giving up the effort of trying to talk)

totally understand that otherwise tho

what are you saying retard are you using deepseek to shit out replies

This is the type of stuff that gets you blocked or ignored anon..

If I respond quickly it'll feed their obsession. I keep such people at a distance. It's better for both of us.

man why can't i just find a schizo who wants to engage with me
there is a fine line to walk sometimes but i wouldn't want to be with somebody who i feel i need to walk on eggshells with
i'm tired ok
i meant that my experience wasn't me talking to multiple men or anything similarly weird
HOWEVER i still respect not wanting to engage romantically with women who talk to multiple men/don't value your attention

but after some point.. c'mon :[ it felt like they didn't care

Probably they were into you so they wanted to keep talking to you and to do that with a foid you have to pretend you don't want to talk to her. Reciprocity ends things with foids, you lot don't like it when a man actually acts like he wants you.

I accidentally ghosted a girl and responded back 3 months later lol

why do you think you are entitled to constant fast and easy access to people? maybe he just has a life?

We're not supposed to want to talk immediately because it shows weakness and you demons lose interest if we have interest.

And I still can't help myself but reply immediately. I'm getting much better at this though, I try to match the pacing of the other. If they fuck off for a day, so do I.

you lot don't like it when a man actually acts like he wants you.

that is, quite literally, the exact reason i lost interest in them

If you're describing a case where the guy initiates a conversation but then stops replying and feeding the conversation he has just started himself then yeah hes stupid

But, in general, if I take long to reply it's because sometimes I just dont have the energy for social things, I keep to myself a lot. With some people I feel so comfortable with that interacting with them doesnt drain my social batteries as much, but with new people (specially girls and specially if theres a potential something there) I get nervous and overthink each of my replies and that does drain my batteries a lot so I eventually close off for some time, maybe hours, maybe until the next day

When this happens I apologize and tell them I was busy with xyz so they dont think I juat dint care about them. It would offend them more if I told them I get socially exhausted from them, though it doesnt mean I dont like them

Well your behaviour is the exact opposite of 99% of foids so you probably should have made that clear to them so they could engage differently.

Anon that's not okay
I'm too crazy for that. Either inform me you're a busy person or get blocked/ignored

I thought the whole point of text messages was that you don't have to drop everything and respond immediately like a voice call, you can just get to it tomorrow. At least thats how it once was twenty years ago, I'm told expectations are more demanding now.

Tell me, what medium of communication does that still hold, nowadays? If I want to contact you in a manner where neither of us expects the other to necessarily respond in a single-digit number of hours, what would be the best way to do that?

Well your behaviour is the exact opposite of 99% of foids

Kek imagine being this retarded
She's pretending to not be like the average whore to keep up her thread going, never trust what women say just observe how they act

This is how you're supposed to do it instead of randomly ghosting the person.. thank you for having common sense anon

i figured my obvious attempts to consistently engage with them would make that obvious
if only you could see how pathetic and eager i actually am when i talk to people i like

if only you could see how desperate i am for chad and how i ghost every other guy on earth

we know

If I wanted to get your message days later, I would ask you to send me a letter

i figured my obvious attempts to consistently engage with them would make that obvious

All that indicates is that you're interested, for now. But standard female behaviour is that they have to continue to feign disinterest or you'll stop. Because that's how virtually all women act.

if only you could see how pathetic and eager i actually am when i talk to people i like

Rub the salt a little deeper in the wound that is my loneliness, won't you
It hurts so good

this was all about men i've added from here
unless they're secretly chads or something idk
this took place over months. how long until one would go "hrmm maybe i should return the energy" cuz i can only give so much before i tap out
i've been sorta moping all day about how i don't have my soulmate husband to live a cozy, simple life with
this is our shared agony, anon

you're fooling no one, don't pretend to relate to people here vapid whore

i've been sorta moping all day about how i don't have my soulmate husband to live a cozy, simple life with

You fucker. We could buy a few acres and have a garden.

Sigh
Country?

how long until one would go "hrmm maybe i should return the energy"

Never because if you want a relationship with a woman you have to feign disinterest indefinitely so she never feels like you're overly attracted to her.

Then you wonder why men grow to hate women. We want to be able to show love and affection but it drives women away. It's awful.

I'd send a snail-mail letter if a girl was really into that. But the attitude that's common nowadays of "you must be immediately reachable at all times, tomorrow is too late" really turns me off. If you want that from me then I don't want to be with you, you're demanding an imposition on me right off the bat as table stakes.

I'm too crazy for that. Either inform me you're a busy person or get blocked/ignored

you are the problem. don't expect to be taken seriously. act like a fucking adult.

i can and i do nyeh nyeh what u gonna do about it
WAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH WHY CAN'T I HAVE A FUCKING NORMIE WIFE LIFE AAAAAAAAAAAAAA
USA but like
c'mon man, what are the odds
i haven't agreed with any of your takes abt women (duh) but i want my bf/husband to be as equally enamored with me as i am with him
otherwise wtf is the point

"ermm liar"

i dropped the men who didn't share my eagerness. this is important to me

This. We REALLY want to love you, but despite what you say here or think, we WILL be seen as weak and you WILL lose interest. The only reason you've even talked first to these guys so often was because they were doing a good job at keeping their distance. Playing aloof.

You would NOT do this to someone that talks back immediately, or a lot. You haven't found him because you lost interest in him when he did that. Or because he was a man you didn't like. Funny how all the men you like keep a tactical distance, I wonder why that works?

WAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH WHY CAN'T I HAVE A FUCKING NORMIE WIFE LIFE AAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Take my hand already.

c'mon man, what are the odds

Idk I met someone that lives an hour away from me on here so I believe it's possible I guess

Another quick response moid here
It fucking sucks how much I get ghosted or just pushed off for when it is convenient

what do you even like

i want my bf/husband to be as equally enamored with me as i am with him

otherwise wtf is the point

Then just be aware that you are the absolute exception, 99% of women want to constantly feel like their man could easily do better and that they have to seek his approval at all times.

stop it anon i'm fragile rn. i will not fool myself into thinking this will happen to me
ok yeah tbf one of the robots i added was like 4 hours away so i guess there's a chance
idk man i don't think i'm that uncommon
except for the fact that i take relationships very seriously ig, that seems to be uncommon

idk man i don't think i'm that uncommon

Our lived experiences disagree. Virtually all women hate it when a man shows affection.

stop it anon i'm fragile rn. i will not fool myself into thinking this will happen to me

It can though, if you're willing to try. It'd probably have to be long distance until we work out the logistics, but I'm in the US too at least.

man i ain't gonna argue, i just know i ain't

It can though, if you're willing to try.

i tried like 3 times, idk if i can handle 4 after the way the last one went
you're very sweet tho :[

Sorry to hear that whatever happened happened. Doesn't sound like you're ready for a relationship though, oh well. I'll keep looking for my cozyhumblegardencottagelife wife.

thank u anon, i wish u well in your journey..... !!!

Thanks, and good luck with #4.

only chad leaves you on read sweetie.