I'm autistic can the normal people explain something to me

Masturbation isn't the same thing

but why it feels the same

Humans are very emotional creatures, it is not just about making genital feel good. If someone doesn't want sex then their partner will assume they don't find them attractive, that the other person has stopped caring about them, that they no longer have a connection.

I'm very picky about who I let in my inner circle it's why I don't have friends right now. I have a short fuse with people if they are not my actual family or my bf who has sex with me. I'm a very sexual person and plan to be so until I physically can't anymore. It's what I prioritize. The right man feels the same way

Sex is essentially sharing your soul with another person. It is the human activity par excellence. People will cope and deny that sex isn't everything, but it really is.

Biological imperatives must be heeded to.

broke up with an autistic virgin after a year because no sex. feeling loved but not desired is one of the worst feelings you can experience. you love my character and who i am, but will never be attracted to me. i have a sex drive, so i'm expected to swallow everything that hurts me while continuing to love her and give her my all. i would rather die alone than face that constant sense of rejection and self-hatred again. whole ordeal made me give up on speaking to people altogether

but i feel like in most cases that's just not the case i mean it's perfectly possible to love someone and not want to fuck them

Nobody thinks divorce after 20+ years of marriage is good or normal.

The amount of utter delusion and irrationality is impressive.

dude I'm like so enlightened because I'm on antidepressants and my cock doesn't work

Imagine relying on drugs because you can't keep yourself together.
Weak.

YEAH i am letting my decisions be influenced by ancient mammalian fuck chemicals and YES i structure my life around ancient mammalian reproductive instincts but YOU'RE the one who is unsophisticated and stupid

kek touche

sex is a natural instinct like drinking and eating

What I don't get is why don't those married people just have sex. Like haven't they already done it a million times what's the big deal.

Why are you calling them ancient chemicals like it's some mysterious force that doesn't exist? Go to the doctor and get your sex drive fixed and stop being annoying

i'm calling them ancient chemicals to highlight the fact that it's incredibly strange and stupid to listen to them in a modern industrial society. you're more than a stupid primate that lives based on instinct, you should act like one

because we are talking about a sex relationship
you can also have friends, this is basically by definitiion

ok, but what if you love someone, you kiss them, you are sexually attracted to them, you sleep in the same bed, you cuddle, but you don't have sex. that's a relationship too.

Women are only loyal to the man who's fucking them. If you aren't getting sex then you aren't getting cuddling or a kiss goodbye either.

If you truly believed that then you would just will away your autism/depression.

then youre in some kind of weird religious group

Yeah industrial modern society is so great. It dehumanizes everything and makes us all numbers, as it should have been from the beginning. The concept of romance and love, which is something often portrayed in media and art, a core part of the human soul, is just stupid brain chemicals. At least we're enlightened now.

You call them ancient as a way to make them sound less important because of modern civilization, but think of it the other way around: they're ancient and therefore deeply rooted in our biology. They're a core part of our brains, and 10,000 or so years of civilization is a tiny blip compared to evolution's timeline. The human brain hasn't really changed from what it was 10,000 years ago, despite everything else around us having changed at hyper speed.

Why do you think it shouldn't be listened to? It's literally how our species keeps surviving and the reason I'm alive. My parents are childhood sweethearts and still have an active sex life in their 60's. I come from parents like that and want that for myself too.
I don't get the weird grindset mentality I guess I'm just a normal person. I don't live for efficiency I live because I'm alive. I don't wake up at 5am and splash my face with ice water and think about how I'm gonna go against my programming and move mountains I put on my pants one leg at a time and take care of my life and at the end of the day I want a strong sexy man to fuck all my worries away. Simple as

This happens when someone was raised highly religious, hated the experience, and the overcorrects. Anything described as otherworldly, magical, or spiritual is rejected and mocked. Love fits that criteria. Happened to me, still cringe about it from time to time.

this is an issue with english only having one word for very different kinds of love, the one you're referring to is a mix of storge and philia

It is possible, but men have pressure to fuck women because that's what society bases their worth on. If he doesn't fuck his wife, everybody calls him a loser and cuck, it makes him feel like less of a man and it lowers his social standing. Now the marriage that otherwise could have continued just fine without sex is strained because the man's ego is hurt.

The same thing happens to women in a different way, their social circles and friends tell them that the deserve better than their husband, that they're giving up so many higher value men and opportunities by being chained to him, that his boring personality is abusive to her. Her worth is defined by the things her husband buys for her in relation to the things her friend's husbands buy for them. Now the marriage that otherwise could have continued just fine without lavish vacations is strained because the woman's ego is hurt.

It is possible, but men have pressure to fuck women because that's what society bases their worth on. If he doesn't fuck his wife, everybody calls him a loser and cuck, it makes him feel like less of a man and it lowers his social standing. Now the marriage that otherwise could have continued just fine without sex is strained because the man's ego is hurt.

this makes sense to me thank you
but do you think men would really want less sex if this pressure was removes?

I don't really know. All the society I grew up in cared about was sex, and men basing their worth on sex. I don't know where to find the answer except maybe research ancient cultures to see if any of them valued something other than sex and put virgins and non-virgins on the same level.

Actually now that I think about it, weren't there lots of examples of old cultures having husbands and wives sleep in whole separate rooms (not even just separate beds)? I guess they were still expected to produce a child at some point, but I bet they weren't pressured to have sex all the time just for fun. There wasn't as much birth control back then.

Go have sex and then try to tell me that it's the same thing as masturbating or cuddling. Fucking turbo virgin cope over here.

It absolutely does not feel the same.

The vast majority of humans historically lived in single-room dwellings