You have to make a choice

Question

You have to make a choice

No killing yourself allowed:
a) Obsessive clingy BPDemon gf that cuts and abuses substances and will make you out to be evil, should you disagree with her or not give enough attention. Highly emotional and unstable. May have been raped in the past, but some speculate it was a false accusation You don't always know what she really feels vs what is manipulation. Type a personality. Loyal

b) Avoidant "chill" gf who never texts first. Low maintenance but not as emotionally available and more distant. Uncertain whether its ADHD or laziness or what. Can go periods without texting you then resume contact like nothing happened. "Eh whatever" type attitude. Aloof. Doesn't expect much from you, like attention, but assumes you also don't expect much from her. Will respond to your attention but never initiate. Hard to know what she's feeling or how much she cares. Type b personality. Loyal.

I'd prefer the second. I need alone time too.

Which one is more receptive to therapy?

Man both would be super exhausting. There is no way I could seriously date either of them long term.

both are emotionally draining, but b) sounds like the best option.

B, since thats literally how I act too. of vourse this is assuming im forced to have a gf. i dont really talk to anyone in the first place.

for the sake of the comparison assume theres no therapy involved

And im asking, if both started going to therapy which one would be more likely to get her respective shit fixed

B is very similar to me, I'd identity and understand her better, she could just go ahead and move in really.

Im somewhat surprised because I thought more people would say A because of the whole yandere girlfriend obsession

tfw b describes me to a t

damn i can't believe my personality is so shit it's in a "choose between 2 shitty things" hypothetical

Neither I prefer my peace of mind rather than having subpar bitches taking up my headspace.

A, without a doubt

I feel like with B while she might seem relatable, you won't get the attention and validation everyone craves in a relationship and it would be hard to feel like you're special and mean something

killing myself anyways

A would be more responsive to therapy but only for her self harming and substance abuse behaviors. She would still have her emotional issues. B is too lazy to change

I'm not insecure, so those things aren't important, we could literally maintain a relationship by being in the same house and hardly interacting.

Then it's A. Id rather take someone who (pretends to) love me who's ultimately indifferent about me

I don't need attention and validation, I just want someone I can hang out with & chat with sometimes and can cuddle with.

And what about physical intimacy? If she didn't care for sex much either would that bother you?

You could put literally anything up against A and i would pick B. I would choose an ugly, cheating whore that never bathes and doesn't even like me over a BPDemon. Every cunt with BPD should kill themselves and save the rest of us from their hellworld existence.
That's gonna be a B from me.

Hopefully she would have a good sex drive or was receptive to my advances, I've had a gf kinda similar to this hypothetical person and she was pretty sexually demanding and for them most part the relationship was comfy.

bpdemon receptive to therapy in any capacity

you have never interfaced with an actual bpdemon

A is hypersexual but B is hyposexual and despite responding to your advances won't be super present and into it

a) GF that stabs me to death for being a b) BF

I'll take them both and fix them both (no I won't)

You're trying way to hard to sell people on A. You have a clear bias

Holy fucking shit number 2.

There is no way to make this choice until you tell me which one is hotter.

And b) gf would ghost you for being a) bf

No im not. I just think rereading my post i may have not made the comparison that equal because its hard to compare with BPDemons because they are evil and I dont want to make the choice too easy

B, easily. I'm not putting up what some banshee.

The gf that I was referring to, in her previous relationship they had sex once a year, maybe I could have the same effect on this person, regardless I could adapt to the situation.

OP post doesn't state this.

A
I want some spice in my life

you won't get the attention and validation

Oh yeah bro, her being somewhat nice totally makes up for being a bitch 50% of the time and expecting you to give her the world.

i asked people to choose between a "person" with no soul or a mildly avoidant woman and too many anons are making the obvious choice

sorry your post is bad ig

I assumed it could be somewhat inferred based on her being either clingy obsessive or indifferent and distant but i should have spelled it out more

Well at least its not troon cuck BBC spam.

No, it can't. You're making the assumption that desire for socialization correlates with sex drive and/or desire for intimacy, which is incorrect. If you want to lay out a different scenario you'll have to repost your thread because right now people have no reason to make your assumption.

true. im just being mean

GIVE ME THE BPDEMON GF PLEASE

I've tried a version of avoidant gf, I'd rather have someone that feels too much than feels meh about something so important as love relationship.

You still haven't told us which one is hotter.

I choose whichever one is hotter, because women's personalities don't matter.

Type one isn't a yandere, it's a mentally ill person.

I choose B with enthusiasm
The fact that she's loyal despite the personality is amazing.
I'd love doting on her and being affectionate to rile a response out of her.
I honestly wouldn't mind if she couldn't reciprocate.
Her presence and loyalty would be all I'd ever need.

People who choose B are just cowards and boring nerds.

kill yourself you bpd bitch

Id prefer B, but B would devolve into a sex only relationship.

Zzzzz...
Nerd.

I thought of it more as emotional unavailability and not wanting to put effort into the relationship, not engaging and expressing your desires, which translates to lack of intimacy and not wanting to put effort into your sex life. Because if you don't care about anything you aren't going to care about sex

Damn right. I'll take that over dealing with a bitch any day.

Nerd response.

Well, no, because that's not what you've described. You've described a woman who prefers less social contact and less communication. You've described an introvert. If you think introverts desire sex less than extroverts, I don't know what to tell you besides that you're hilariously wrong.

Introverts desire sex as much as extroverts, the difference is that an introvert isn't going to want to spend all day chatting before and after.

I was in a similar relationship, and it wasn't as dreary as it sounds, there were i love yous and hugs and sometimes she would text first and sometimes I would jump on her and give her dozens of kisses all over her face and cuddling it wasn't affectionless, but sometimes it was just banging one out and getting some sleep for weeks at a time.

Thank you, I really do try my best.

Nothing will ever fill the void inside of you. You will will never be a real person who is whole with an internal sense of self. There is no cure for what you are. You will always feel hollow and unsure of who you are. Everything that lead to you being the broken, shambling husk you are happened for a reason and that reason is that you deserved it. Every bit of abuse, every person that's walked out on you, all of the heartbreak. You have deserved every moment of pain you have experienced because you are a bad person that lacks a soul. Your only hope of ever finding "love" that won't abandon you is to cling to someone as broken and incapable of being human as you and hope that they won't kill themself before you do. They won't be capable of loving you, just as you are incapable of love, but they will hopefully make you feel a little less lonely as you drift through the dark.

I pick one randomly doesnt really matter cause either will end leaving me

i'd prefer a middle ground between both, someone who's chill but doesn't seem distant, i guess
if i had to absolutely pick one though i'd definitely go with b)
a bpdemon like a) is a ticket to hell, with b) i can at least try and make it work

If you're implying I have bpd, I don't.
Though whoever you're angry at, it's not me...
Nice double dubs.

desu I'm only attracted to demons

Nice double dubs.

Thank you,

Fuck, you're on a roll

I can fix A and make her stop the substances and cutting with the power of my love & care
B can't be fixed
Easy choice