Me and my bf have sex once per two months. If. It doesn't match my desire but I am tolerating it because I love him

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Me and my bf have sex once per two months. If. It doesn't match my desire but I am tolerating it because I love him

Me and my bf have sex once per two months. If. It doesn't match my desire but I am tolerating it because I love him.

jump him in sexy lingerie

He won't get hard

then just start sucking cock

I'm terrible at it and it hurts him when I touch his weener before it's hard. It is not possible to force erection out of him, if I touch before he is completely hard it hurts and he loses all mood completely. But even if he was hard he have never cum from blowing anyways.
I was essentially a virgin before him and I am also a tomboy; I fundamentally lack any sort of sexual charms and have no idea what to do with any of it. Trying to talk about sex makes me have an aneurism and panic attack. I am ugly? Maybe, I can't really do anything about it, I feel like I tranny when I try.
Why am I writing this? Idk.. I guess sexlessness is my cross to bear through this life.
I just wish I was worthy of seduction for once.

Women would rather go after bisexual chad then settle for a loving guy like me.

If he's not reciprocating or initiating, then there needs to be a discussion. It's called a partnership; if he's not supporting you in the ways you need, he's not upholding his end of the deal. Not everyone is going to be some kink king, but you're clearly dissatisfied with the current arrangement of your relationship. Maybe he's got some bad ED problem, or maybe there's another thing that'd work for him, but if you relay how it is causing you to feel unfulfilled and unhappy, then how is it fair to you if he doesn't put in the effort? Equally, if you don't convey your concerns to him, he's left in the dark, and that is unfair to him.

Trying to talk about sex makes me have an aneurism and panic attack. I am ugly? Maybe, I can't really do anything about it, I feel like I tranny when I try.

Then consider a new strategy. Unironically, writing about it beforehand and giving it to him may help since you don't have to stumble about it verbally. However, from there, you should really develop (together) the strength and the confidence to discuss sex and how this makes you feel. It's no wonder you feel 'ugly' and "fundamentally [lacking of] sexual charm" when you don't talk about this properly and openly.

i bet he jerks off to porn behind your back all the time and that is why

he is completely hard it hurts and he loses all mood completely.

This is some psychological thing on his part (or just an excuse not to have sex). My flaccid penis is no more sensitive than my erect penis and I think it would be cute if a girl played around with it to get me hard

Probably because you are cut and jerk off a lot.
He says even washing can be painful.
I don't think he does for reason stated above. People who regularly masturbate can't possibly have such high sensitivity.

It's unfair but it's useless to talk to him about it. He says he doesn't know what to do about it, it's just the way it is and discussion ends at that.
It's a deadend advice. He is not interested in helping me develop sexually either, it feels like banging on closed door, the more I try the more discouraged I get. I can practice with anyone else either for obvious reasons.

I am uncut and washing my penis can be too ticklish sometimes, so no, your theory is retarded

Just cheat on this fucking loser if he's not willing to fuck you why does he care if you have sex with other men

why does he care

Uhm because men are just like that they find other men touching women yucky.

do you shave? do you do anal? do you swallow cum and piss? do you get eaten out? do you 69 often? how quick do u cum? where are you from? why didn't you date me?

You are still a masturbator. He doesn't masturbate. At all

I don't do anything I literally don't have sex

it's useless to talk to him about it

it feels like banging on closed door

If you look at the scenario, it's not that it's "deadend advice" as you worded it, but your boyfriend that's deadending and closing you out. He is both passively and actively not only ignoring his responsibilities to engage with you seriously about your concerns and invalidating you in the process, but actively doing nothing to fix this. Just because it's not working out for him does not mean you should have to deal with his lackings. That is not fair to you as his partner, and it is not only unfair, but a legitimate red flag if he won't talk to you seriously about intimate matters. Seriously, if he can't communicate, you need to rethink if you are willing to have an unfulfilling, no communication relationship with a selfish person long-term.

Another note, his "hurting" thing goes beyond mere sensitivity. That's likely an issue he needs to see a physician about. An "it is what it is" deflection is going to help nobody. If he won't get it checked out, it's hopeless.

foids get with a guy just to complain how awful he is

well then he probably just has low testosterone levels for whatever reason
he likely will never change in this regard

answer the questions one by one

Just fucking leave him if you're not going to fuck other men on the side but I'd just cuck him not like he'll ever find out

Seriously, if he can't communicate, you need to rethink if you are willing to have an unfulfilling, no communication relationship with a selfish person long-term.

I am autistic with auditory disability so I wont get any better deal anyways

it's hopeless.

It is.

He isnt awful, he is just a normal person. Its my life thats awful.

answer to everything is no

so I wont get any better deal anyways

i guarantee you will even if you are extremely fat and ugly

No you dont get it.
I cant communicate myself, I am literally socially stunted. At least he isnt abusing me and I get cuddles and he doesnt get mad at my reardation.
Most men would prey on me in crude ways, I can't tell who is who. And I cant have fulfilling relationships because anyways because I cant truly connect to anyone. He fooled me abit in that regard but at least it wasnt malicious. Most men, the average men are much much worse to their partners and a retard like me aint getting anything better than already above average. I dont want to exchange having sex for being treated like trash.

I cant go against my morals, it grosses me out.

Sorry, OP, but sexual attraction is totally visceral, you feel it or you dont. It sounds to me like hes depressed, insecure or has some kind of selfsteem problem that messes his libido and that you cant help him out with. Id suggest leaving him. It hurts if you love him, but relationships shouldnt be this way

women would rather be stuck in a sexless dead-end relationship with Chad while robots would love them forever, just because foids don't like videogames or staying inside at home
many such cases. Sad!

then just start sucking cock

I'm terrible at it and it hurts him

if he's up for it (might be a big if), give him your index and middle finger together, have them around his face
tell him to do with his mouth what you've been doing, and imagine it's being done to your clit
tell him to do what he'd like to be done to him
there, nonverbal communication in the bedroom
you're welcome

regular masturbation doesn't really decrease your sensitivity at all. I have maybe lost 5% of sensitivity over 20 years of masturbating.

Your bf is just fucked in the head, jacking off is normal, being "too sensitive" to have your dick touched while soft is NOT normal.

You should cheat on him, girls deserve hard penis.

I'm married and I have rejected my wife so much we haven't fucked in 2 years.

Wut happen? Why did you lose attraction?

You're retarded LMAO I masturbate like 10 times a week and it's extremely painful when I get a boner in jeans because of how sensitive my dick is. If I don't fap I'm walking around all day in pain

What an absolute faggot

Like, fr fr

Yes, OP. I believe that you are a girl

Is tripfagging a sin?

Only if you get caught while at it

No for him. It's painful WITHOUT boner, your gooner experience is completely irrelevant.

He plays video games and stays at home all day. Well I mean when he is off work.
Bruh... Clitoris is not sensitive like that, I can't tell whatever the fuck he is doing there. It's it too small for differential sensors.

Your microdick is no clit

You should probably abstain from discussing clits, since you don't have one.

For very similar reasons I stay out of relationships with women. I will just be taken advantage of or mistreated.

You should probably abstain from discussing boners and dick, since you don't have one.

I've sucked plenty though

Probably just likes the power and has low t.

Sounds about right on the money

I'm annoyed beyond belief

finger his butt while he reads a sex story you wrote for him
but actually filthy and good, just a paragraph of smut of his favorite dirty words, just give him what he wants

Get a Caucasian bvll

finds out he's a pedo and that's why he's sexless with her

kek

I am uncut and my penis never hurts. What the hell are you talking about.

Uncut is always the way

The big picture was too big for the slut

t. elliot

Ugh this is harder than it seems, screw my memoru

So damn pissed

I can't take it anymore no

Bait + whats wrong with your bfs dick if it hurts? Are you being too rough or what

so hes like me but I have a higher sexdrive and would actually love you
so again, why didn't you date me. I'm in europe
discord maxrush

Please try and get him to take 30 to 40mg zinc everyday this will increase his test by about 40% and he will want to make love to you. Good luck and do not give up on him just keep trying to find pleasure and enjoyment that you both deserve.

He might be sick or stressed y'know, kills the libido.

like me

Uhm I dont judge people by their interests. And ours dont align anyway, not anymore. I just dont care much about this part. But no I would rather be with someone who goes to places because internet has become insufferable in the past few years, I'd prefer to escape from it somehow. But his doesnt matter, as I already love someone; not their interests, but their kindness and tenderness.

He is healthy as a bull (no cuckshit intended)
Its me who is sick all the time.

Yeah, he's probably sensitive and low libido.

How can he be healthy if he doesn't get horny and masturbate?

He says even washing can be painful.

I used to experience this when I was a kid, but grew out of it, he needs to stop being a pussy and touch it until his sensitivity adapts.
I'm uncut too so I know what I'm talking about, this fag, phimosis fags, and smegma fags all give us a bad rap.
Desensitize your head and atretch your foreskin by jerking off, wash your dick in the shower, how fucking hard could this possibly be for other guys to do when it seems to basic and intuitive?