Getting fucking sick of trying to use dating apps. Or date at all...

Getting fucking sick of trying to use dating apps. Or date at all. I'm a nerdy motherfucker whose ideal night is binge watching a season of an anime. I don't wanna go to the dog park with your mongrel, I don't wanna go on a spontaneous trip to Europe, I just wanna fucking sit at home and vibe. And I want some boring ass girlfriend who feels the same.
I asked the normalfags on leddit (know your enemy or whatever) "so, yeah, granting I'll lose all the stacies but idgaf, if I just be straight up with being a weeb who binges chinese cartoons and playing vidya that'll attract likeminded chicks right?"
What do I get? Paraphrased, more than a couple answers like:

"Lol well my ideal night is just cuddling on the couch watching anime too, but I'd skip your profile because you focus on it too much. You should have more normie shit highlighted. Look at my profile, I posted the one time i went to a concert and shit"

Like, 'fuck you mean bitch? I don't DO normie shit, that's the point. You allegedly are a closet weeb or whatever. So why am I supposed to larp as an extroverted normalfag, and you do the same, just so we secretly clock each other's "hidden nerdiness?" Nah, the real reason is because she'd feel as if she's "settling" with some hikki bf until a crypto bro messages her and offers to pick her up in his Porsche to take his private jet to Ibiza. Wouldn't want to publicly portray herself as a femcel, regardless of veracity, else it might scare would-be chad simps off. And miss me with that

oh well you're showing that you're not gonna be a good provider

Motherfucker the premise is that I don't give a fuck about trying to find some high maintenance whore, just wanna hang out and be nerds together (romantically).

It's so fucking tiresome

You might be too autistic and too honest with your intentions. This will give women the ick.

Yeah, got shit like that too. It's so fucking retarded that even if you end up being a "laze about chilling" couple, you HAVE to follow the "formula" of pretending to be a well adjusted human being.
Yeah, probably too much of the spectrum, cuz I don't see the fucking point in wasting time playing that game

I don't wanna go to the dog park with your mongrel

Can't relate to this one, going out with her dog to chill in the park sounds fun. Even if she insists on accompanying us. I can relate to the rest though, yeah.

I just want a shut-in weeb gf who wants to chill at home most of the time and go on comfy drives in the rain.

I mean, I phrased that poorly: would I meet her needs for shit like that? Sure, of course, I like to believe I'd support her.
My point was more how every fucking woman on hinge appears to be a cardio bunny with a fucking dog and talks about going on trips and shit

Dating is pointless these days. Women only go for Chad. If one does give you attention, it's only because she's a used-up post-wall whore who will eventually resent you. I wouldn't waste any time trying to get a relationship with these roasties.

This is basically where I've landed. Even a 5/10 gamer girl is getting spammed by 10%ers, there's no point competing.

Unironically go to a LGS. E-dating is garbage if you're not a gym bro. Easier to feel out vibes IRL too

prisma illya pic

can't imagine why you give off bad aura

I'll give you a rundown
Yes, the end state of your relationship would be quiet nights watching anime. But think of it this way, is this really a romance? Is your potential partner getting anything out of this? Because part of the appeal or point of a romance is both parties getting something they can't get without the other. In this case you want status quo, just with a girl around. You're essentially just looking for a friend, to put it bluntly. Why would a girl go for that? Let's say she's just like you fr, would rather sit around playing vidya, what benefit does dating you provide her? Even if that's what you do 9/10 of the time, she's getting with you for the 1/10 times that you go out and do something exciting. If you can't prove that you are capable of doing literally anything but being a NEET loser, even if it's out of your comfort zone, then why take the chance that she might have to cajole you to do something other than the norm when she can instead get with Chad and groom him into being into anime with her?

I feel for OP. Being too honest is a death sentence with women.

Its fucking ridiculous. I have these quarrels at work too with some close people where they mention I shouldn't put my legs up when I'm on break on the desk, and I keep saying I do not get the desk dirty nor does it impede my work in any way. Its all bullshit for appearances.

Holy shit I cannot agree with you enough. Before I read the rest of the thread which will inevitably be full of boomer ragebait saying you deserve eternal loneliness for being a humble and honest person, I'll give my take on it.

I think the problem is that these girls who would have been down for that find friends to enjoy those simple activities with when they're young, and by the time they move to a dating app, they're already accomplished normies who have a set of photos of them literally being all around the world. Women of our generation didn't have awkward childhoods like us wondering why no one is giving them a chance, they just get... scooped up from that, basically. Meanwhile, we're still in the "trying to see what it's fucking like to hang out with someone outside of school" stage since we were absolute social rejects. It is ROUGH trying to find a girl who relates and still wants to spend time like that instead of "upgrading," and the advice you'll get from redditors is to somehow catch up to the level of social experience of people who are years ahead of you, or fuck off and rot. That's why it feels so unbearably cruel and sick; we are told we are not worthy and never will be, and that we don't deserve a helping hand, basically.

what benefit does dating you provide her

Your company. If she doesn't enjoy that, then she doesn't like you and your entire relationship will be defined by your constant struggle to keep her willing to TOLERATE your presence (not enjoy it).

You accidentally doubleposted with your edit bro anyways
Yeah I know most of them are probably dudes larping as girls, but sick of seeing alleged femcel types online going "wish i had a bf who just wants to smash (brothers)......" Like where the fuck are all these withdrawn socially anxious chicks, I can fix them, I'll take a 4/10 (i'm like a 5 myself at best) just so long as we can just be comfy being weebs together

In this case you want status quo, just with a girl around. You're essentially just looking for a friend, to put it bluntly. Why would a girl go for that? Let's say she's just like you fr, would rather sit around playing vidya, what benefit does dating you provide her?

Are you a girl? Why does the idea of making a good friend and being on equal footing, which could eventually leading to a relationship with a strong foundation not appeal to you?
The only reason that comes to mind is that you want a man who will quickly woo you, rocking your sense of status quo with wealth and attention beyond what you're used to. Doesn't that lead to a relationship with an "imbalance of power?" Not much of a romance if you ask me

Local. Game. Store.
Learn to play DND if you don't already and if you're not too picky you can end up playing a group with a solid 4 who at least has a cute laugh or something and work up to something more than weekly tg sessions
This assumes you have anything approaching rizz IRL, I'll be kinder than to assume not but your autistic screed doesn't give me much hope for that... but that's all right she'll be acoustic too, you'll figure it out

Hypergamy, she wants a wealthy and high status dude who'll take her to expensive restaurants and parties and fly her around the world and owns a house. But she can't really come right out and say that so she has to attack/condemn regular guys instead and make them look like the villains.

trying to date at your LGS

What if he's looking for women though bro?

You're essentially just looking for a friend, to put it bluntly

I love how roasties act like this is supposed to be some burn when that was the rhetoric of like 90% of romantic relationships up until social media became a thing. "My [spouse] is my best friend *AND* the love of my life" was basically the refrain of any happy couple. The two aren't mutually exclusive, ho, arguably they're actually very much crucial to a good relationship

kek, yeah whenever I think of DND and stuff like that I can't help but think of being surrounded by hyper soi milennials acting all quirky. People who play actual video games are way more bearable to be around.

the one thing from sex that actually turn me on after was grabbing her boobs. touching, being touched, making out and even penetration was meh as hell for me but touching boob and her squirming when i twisted her nipples is like something i still wack it to sometimes.
in hindsight i think i made it weird kinda, like i was mostly half assing everything due to a genuine lack of interest only going along because she wanted to but touching tiddies was the one thing i was in the zone about and i think she could tell for sure.

nah. dont think any of her names even had any Ds at all

Why are you using dating apps(normie tool) to try and find a nerdy girl? Go to a fucking anime convention or two and get to know people there instead. Also

taking anything on r*ddit seriously

Stay there next time.

Anon, my ex was a nerd and we basically watched shows and played vidya mostly, cooked together, did various DIY projects together. The normiest thing we did was taking long walks in nature but even that isn't really normie tier these days. You won't find that kind of girl on dating apps. You will find her on hobby focused discord servers or subreddits.

You are lacking the looks OP, that's all that matters. If you had the prerequisite level of looks (face/height/hair/frame) then you would find and get the girls you're into, who you vibe with.

But you don't have the looks, and I know this because you ended up as a sit around inside watching anime type of guy. If you'd had the looks, you would have ended up a different guy altogether.

To further elaborate on this, at this point in my blackpill enlightenment, I don't even really believe that "personality" is a thing. I don't think there's any level of "compatibility" OTHER than physical looks.

Personality is shaped by how the world has treated you and your leverage in the world, which is a function of looks. So it's not that women are looking for a guy with certain personality, it's more that the guys that have the sufficient looks tend to have the a certain personality which developed around how the world treated them (i.e. positively, the world is a theme park to them).

When you don't have the looks, the outside world isn't friendly to you, and things generally won't go your way, it ends up being a matter of psychological+physical safety, to just stay inside and find solitary things to do (anime, vidya, etc)

The telltale sign is: if you prefer to stay inside, unless you're a legit introvert, you just don't have the looks. If you had the looks, you'd be outside like anyone else would, where there is so much easy fun, pleasure, and validation for you.

Looks come first, looks are all that truly matters. The rest is a byproduct. Looks are everything you are, and we know this now.

Maybe you should stop making anime your whole personality. You consider yourself weird but you're just a weeb, which is not interesting in the slightest.

Where did you find yours

Daily reminder, anon, that women are for Chad only.

A videogame subreddit.

What did you just like dm her saying let's go on a date
The concept of meeting someone on reddit is wild to me but so is the concept of meeting someone anywhere else

Well first we replied to each other a lot in comments, then talked in dms, then she invited me to a discord then we talked more, eventually we met and after a few more months we moved in together. I get what you mean, I didn't expect this to happen at all, she was my first and only. I think it's important to engage with people, not having any expectations but if you have chemistry with someone you need to push it to see how far it can go? As guys we're disadvantaged since it's the women who select. All you can do is be there and engage, make them aware that you exist, try to kill your expectations because having expectations will make you act weird, needy, awkward in a bad way. I'm sorry I don't have real advice. It's like I passed a stat check but I can't tell you which one!

What is absolutely certain is that idling in front of a screen, not engaging with people, will only yield you continued loneliness. Anon Babble doesn't count since it's all single use interactions.

I want really special woman

I am in no way special myself

Uh, yeah?

you're the kind of nigga people double check to make sure is single so they may feel better about their lives
don't think about it too much