A lot of it stems from a lack of female affection or even approval. From birth, men are taught that it's wrong to feel attracted to women, being seen as "creepy" and wrong if they express their interest in another woman, and you can even be punished for approaching a woman these days, which can range from public humiliation to even facing charges.
Because of this, a lot of guys develop a mommy fetish because, well, let's face it. No one will love you more than your own mother, so they attempt to seek those motherly traits they saw in their own mother in other women.
As for Femdom... I believe it can come, said the rejection I said earlier. If you do something long enough, your brain will learn to enjoy it. If the only form of attention you receive from women is negative, your brain interprets that as a good thing.
Speaking from my own experience I wouldn't exactly say I'm a fan of femdom, it's more of an umbrella term anyways. Anything involving my anus is gay. I think men such as myself tend to lean towards the Yandere stuff because the idea of a woman being so obessed and in-love with you she basically rapes you forces you to be in a relationship with her is entirely foreign.
Long story short: NEVER GOON!