I'm the loneliest person ever

Well no one wants to create chats or even do some kind of game nights here anymore. Only way for that to change is to move the groups out of 4chins but no one wants to do that.

Posted my experience there. I don't want to talk to someone who I share no interest with besides us mutually being lonely. That sounds sad.

If everyone itt started socializing with one another, we'd all ghost eachother in a month.

I want to stop my serial ghosting but I haven't even had a chance to connect with anyone else in years. At least not someone I have anything in common with.

How do the normies avoid this pitfall then? We need to study them

as a person that interacts with normies everyday, i think i can give you advice

They have a lot of people in their friend circle and are willing to tolerate people they don't get along with better. That's my guess.

Normalfags are perfectly fine barely speaking to eachother. For terminal online fags, if there isn't constant engagement then ghosting starts.
Have you considered NOT ghosting people? You are making an choice to do that and all you need to do is stop it.

Are you being disingenuous on purpose? He means do more than post in the same ragebait thread. There was a thread up yesterday, anons drawing together. That was nice. There are a few anons who stream movies, those are nice, too. OP very obviously did not mean we should meet up IRL.

Failed normie here. It used to just happen. People just kinda gravitated towards me and we became friends, hung out or whatever. Used to have huge groups of friends and everyone seemed to know me. i've had girls hit on me, ask me out a couple of times, show interest. I still notice when a girl has that little glance at you that takes a bit longer then usual but I just don't approach women. The relationship I had was initiated by the girl.

Don't know how I ended up like this. Death by a thousand cuts, I suppose. Haven't had friends in years. Last time I had a work buddy talking about buying the same console I play on so we could play together but I quit that job and ghosted him. The girl I was with cheated and still tried to hold unto me but I wasn't sticking around that. Maybe I seek others like me which is why I always end up back here. Maybe I just hate myself. Don't know. I'm not depressed or have any mental illness. I'm neurotypical. Good family. But I'm still just kind of existing. Sorry for the blog post.

Last time I had a work buddy talking about buying the same console I play on so we could play together but I quit that job and ghosted him

Lmao

What's so funny about that?

i cba with online friends thats what, no one is in liverpool city centre so I cant exactly meet up with anyone, the chances of us then getting along and having the same interests is very fucking low with the only common ground being im le lonleh. idk, started a fulltime job and I thought I might make a friend there but nah, it really is what people say with full time work, just strangers with no desire to be around each other crammed in a space for 8 hrs a day.

You contribute to your own misfortune. I find that humorous.

I guess, if you're a bit of a sadistic psycho my self sabotage is funny. But it's still my life.

to be honest i found it kinda funny too but im not a sadist i swear, some people enjoy blogposts

You sound like a woman who keeps dating abusive men.

I'm not a sadist either, it's just funny. It's like watching someone walk into a glass door three times. I enjoy blogposts.

It's hard for people in our position to give each other what we need. You can't reciprocate what you've never received.

am loneliest person ever forever and ive tried a bunch to get close with losers like myself and got ghosted/unadded each time. definitely not giving up but im taking a bit of a break i guess

you know, one of the problems is that if a loser befriends a loser, none of you know how to talk to each other, so this is likely to happen

Because the comfort from being alone outweighs the pain of loneliness.

sure, but the loneliness causes you to crash the fuck out about once every 6 months

idk i can adapt to anything
or atleast forever try to
but people get bored with me iguess

loneliness gets too much

try to do something about it

fail

continue being lonely until it gets overwhelming

repeat

i'm the loneliest person ever

no. never even made that claim.

zero attempt at socializing with people

yes. because I'm an old tired introvert who enjoys comfort and coziness of his own cave way too much to even go outside an extra time.

Why are we like this?

Because I want to enjoy my life? One can type a lot of shit, but what matters are choices and actions. Day to day, hour to hour. I always choose to stay home and enjoy being alone. And whenever I do not stay home, because people drag into some shite party of something, I always get tired of people quick and want to get back home asap. And I feel relieved when I come back home.
TL;DR: Why would I ever want to socialize with any of you faggots? If I wanted a connection I wouldn't have been on Anon Babble in the first place.

what are you like, anon? what do you like doing in your free time? do you like coffee?

Yeah, exactly the feel is was referring to hereI've only had one semi long term success with online friendship. Starting from about late 2022 to now. We go weeks, sometimes months without talking to each other, but it's maintained because we have a mutual obscure interest that involves a shared activity.

quite ironically we all hate weakness. Ergo we hate each other.
It's literally a trait in our genes, we hate weakness.
The only solution is to eliminate weakness.

Because people secretly enjoy or at least prefer being lonely. I refuse to believe that people can't make friends or find a partner, if they actually tried to. Problem is, that it is quite some work to get friendships and relationships and maintain them.

I add people here all the time I disappear for months at a time though cause personality

How do you add people from here. I really want to add people from here. I want Anon Babble friends.

Are you done posting online about how lonely you are, bro? It's getting old.

what are you like, anon?

im ... hmm... i am the sum of the parts of people ive interacted with, i guess. i would like to do coding together, traveling together, drawing, learn music but alone i don't really want anything

do you like coffee?

yea coffee tastes nice but it makes me very eepy somehow
yea i should try to find someone to code with probably and try to get closer when we dont do it

Soc is your best bet or post discord then get banned for 3 days, lol

i would like to do coding together

what kind of coding? there are several. backend or frontend?

eepy somehow

same

Bah. Anything but soc. Those people are the biggest weird, horny, attention whores on this site. Can't stand that board. Do you really get banned if you post a discord account here?

this is not true, people rarely get banned cause of posting discord
if you don't want to post discord you can always use temp mail org

these threads make me think of Jesus, thank you, anon! cause of u i regained faith im not alone anymore jesus is her

what kind of coding?

id try to help with anything i guess.
id do the project that other person is interested in the most

backend or frontend

am fullstack

Probably not. You get a 3 day ban for posting yourself, I don't see pisscord posting being on the same level in mods minds and it's only a ban from posting anyway. Plus it's not hard to ban evade.

I dunno just be chronically online there's tons of opportunities there's also Anon Babble but most of them are horny normalfags

id try to help with anything i guess.

you sound like a person that pleases others very often. i'm not judging you, but this can be dangerous for you, please be careful.

am fullstack

hi fullstack, this is dad

Wish I had a programming friend like you years ago.

you sound like a person that pleases others very often

yea but i fail to do so anyway

please be careful

i guess i am, never really had a reason to be, though. like i don't even get abused, people just disappear

this is dad

took you long enough... where's milk?
i wish i could get close enough with someone to not be thrown away again, idk if friendships even can be enough for that

yea but i fail to do so anyway

i don't know if this is your experience, but most people i talked to were like

talk a lot during the first two or three days

topics start dying down and we have no activities in common

chat dies

repeat

maybe it's just the lack of common activities and it doesn't have anything to do with you as a person

like i don't even get abused

i'm glad this hasn't happened to you then

where's milk?

mixed it with beer and it's in my belly now (taps his belly)

you remind me a lot of myself, what with people fading from my life and all (which i used to call "curse of the shooting star")
i get how terrible that struggle might be, trying to build connections but people just don't want to or can't

have you ever wondered why people disappear from your life?

What are we supposed to say? The fact is none are very interesting or interested

on soc it was mostly
they tell me my post resonated with them, we talk a day or a few for hours and we seemingly get close and i start having hope, i get blocked overnight.
other chats died cos we didn't do anything together also i guess.
and some died cos i wasnt sexual as they wanted me to be.
i just remember how i used to talk about anything and everything with my old bestie for hours upon hours, like we didn't even need to do things, weird

"curse of the shooting star"

thats a cool name for it, i usually imagine im in hell as a cope. its easier to believe it isn't my fault.

have you ever wondered why people disappear from your life?

it is how i am, or more like how im not. i have no personality.
i can hide it well and seem like i am something but it's all just a pretty shell, hollow on the inside.

it seems like you forgot to tag the other person :)
there you go. i'll reply soon

oops phoneposting at 1am gone wrong

on soc it was mostly

disgusting desu

they tell me my post resonated with them, we talk a day or a few for hours and we seemingly get close and i start having hope, i get blocked overnight.

wow, so much for resonating. i think it's hard to find out if you resonate with someone, unless you've spent a fair amount of time talking to them

other chats died cos we didn't do anything together also i guess.

what do you do in your free time?

i just remember how i used to talk about anything and everything with my old bestie for hours upon hours, like we didn't even need to do things, weird

i'm sorry. what happened to your friend? i'd offer being friends with you, but i'm boring myself. if you don't mind it...

im in hell

we all are in hell to an extent, i suppose
but i named it that mostly because a lot of people appear in my skies as shooting stars
bright and pretty at first, but they all eventually fade

sometimes it's our fault, sometimes it isn't, it really depends
nowadays i see how much of a cunt i used to be, but back then... i thought it was all everyone else.

i have no personality.

a pretty shell, hollow on the inside.

being nothing means you can be anything
to every void there's a bit of god, the power of creation that makes use of that nothingness
be who you want to be, in that specific moment, and alternate between "sides"
they're all "you" anyway, whatever constructs you come up with are "you"

thank you, anon

i don't handle rejection well x2

it's hard to find out if you resonate with someone, unless you've spent a fair amount of time talking to them

you are completely right
looking back at it i got way too desperate and was getting attached after mere days of talking.

what do you do in your free time?

right now, nothing except Anon Babble.
i know i lose possible chances by not having hobbies that i am always committed to.
my brain mostly runs off of oxytocin and im worthless alone.

what happened to your friend?

its a complicated story spanning a year that I don't fully understand because i struggled with emotions a lot during it. in short - we dont talk anymore.

i'd offer being friends

i wont post my discord here now but i could add you if you really want.
though i suck now, soc made me worse i think.

bright and pretty at first, but they all eventually fade

did you ever fade for someone? i know i didnt, it feels so alien to me

how much of a cunt i used to be

maybe i am too and i cant evaluate myself, id try to fix it if someone told me whats wrong

being nothing means you can be anything

i see myself in that phrase, i try to be anything for everyone, nothing internally

alternate between "sides"

these sides are decided by the influence of others, usually

looking back at it i got way too desperate and was getting attached after mere days of talking.

this is what loneliness does to a person. don't think too much about it, just take it as experience

i know i lose possible chances by not having hobbies that i am always committed to.

what kind of hobbies would you like to do? i mean, have you ever thought about this? also, are you working right now?

i struggled with emotions a lot during it. in short - we dont talk anymore.

i hope you are doing better nowadays

though i suck now, soc made me worse i think.

worse in what sense? maybe you just need a break from this website, all in all this site plagues your mind with negativeness...

don't think too much about it

ya i dont really actively think but i feel affected subconsciously a bit, im waiting for it to go away now...

what kind of hobbies would you like to do?

i mentioned it here
(me)

i would like to do coding together, traveling together, drawing, learn music

are you working right now?

not really, just wasting time. i dont need money as im not interested in spending it.

i hope you are doing better nowadays

thank you
i expected to be way worse off, though it still sucks

worse in what sense

jaded, very negative so id suck all your energy probably

need a break from this website

dunno, robots are often very nice and i like being here. soc sucks though i guess

ya i dont really actively think but i feel affected subconsciously a bit, im waiting for it to go away now...

good luck!!
sorry about the hobbies question, it is just that the "together" part stuck with me, so i thought you meant it in the sense of doing all those things with someone else rather than on your own

just wasting time

try to use this time to exercise or maybe go take walks

id suck all your energy

i got infinite amounts of energy for others, none for myself
ok, last question for you, where do you live?

the "together" part stuck with me, so i thought you meant it in the sense of doing all those things with someone else

ah idk yea id like to do these with someone, i did most of them before but i stopped.
alone nothing is rewarding

try to use this time to exercise or maybe go take walks

i go to the forest at nights and make pics sometimes but its all not very fun

i got infinite amounts of energy for others, none for myself

oh im same normally, i think i just need to recharge a bit

where do you live?

russia, tho id love to either move to someone or to travel together, maybe to thailand or something..

my only friend just cut off contact with me

I don't like to burden others with my existence.
You'd understand if you were actually like me.
If you want to socialize, our loneliness is not the same.

alone nothing is rewarding

that hits close to home, anon.

oh im same normally, i think i just need to recharge a bit

yeah, i think you are in a bad place right now, because you are at a low point. so if you befriend people now, they will just see a bad side. you will be ready to try again soon

russia, tho id love to either move

quite far away.... what are russian people like? are they friendly?
why did this happen

did you ever fade for someone?

i'm sure i did, i burned a lot of bridges before as well
bleh...

id try to fix it if someone told me whats wrong

i'm sure you can fix it, i don't really have pointers for you as i struggle with it myself, but thinking about things with someone else's mindset helps me
maybe it'll help you too

i try to be anything for everyone

maybe try to be something for yourself too
you can be a companion for yourself after all

these sides are decided by the influence of others, usually

i see, i imagine it's a bit of a process
be something for yourself first, return to your basics and behaviors, likes and dislikes, even behind voids there is still some noise in there
listen to it

i have to go now unfortunately, i have a long trip ahead of me now...
i wish you the best of luck, anon
and may you find someone else to stick around with you, do keep in mind friendships will get boring after a while but don't give up, get used to someone and let them get used to you as well
so long as they come back later, it's fine to fade for a little bit

have a good night
take care

why did this happen

having good times doing a lot of shit together

fast fwd a few month

he gets blast out drunk, start mass deleting everyone

ask the his other friends whats up "oh yeah he does that sometimes"

next day start talking again "ahahah yeah dont worry"

few months go by

happens again

i try not to think too much about it

few weeks go by

start getting verbally abused, its not so fun anymore and i feel like hes losing respect for me somehow

feels like its a unidirectional friendship

weekly scheduled movie night happens today

"sorry dude not feeling today I dont feel like getting insulted again"

"uhhhhhhhh!>?!?!"

and now it's over, so i'm drinking
sometimes I think its one whole cosmic joke and now i'm not a early 20yo faggot

start mass deleting everyone while drunk... it sounds like a very fragile person who doesn't really believe in anyone around him
i think you are way better without him, but, did you manage to make friends with any of his friends?

no and it never came to my mind either because they're just acquaintances and honestly i've got very little in common with them
friends are friends and usually its bidirectional its just something snapped and he changed just like many others before and it fucking sucks

i don't think people can change that much all of a sudden, if anything he probably hid his feelings behind a smile.
what is your plan now, anon? do you want to stay alone for a while? try again?

There's a lot of yunguns here that don't understand. But once you go past a certain age, you just cannot befriend anyone anymore. You deviate so much from your peers that you become a complete outcast.

i'm not sure how old you are but people can self deluded themselves into believing absolute bullshit if their minds are up to it and i've witnessed it many times now over the years
as for me i'm just gonna hang around, keep to my hobbies and eventually i'll meet more people I'll connect with
few times when I was really desperate I tried either dating websites or pen-pals stuff but it feels so damn fake

you will be ready to try again soon

i hope, yea. ill be sure to try on r9k and not on soc this time, people seem way nicer here

what are russian people like? are they friendly?

im probably not objective but they are terrible, only online i realised i actually really like people.

thinking about things with someone else's mindset

i do that and i think i think i think a little too much maybe

maybe try to be something for yourself too

my brain just doesnt need it somehow

be something for yourself first, return to your basics and behaviors, likes and dislikes, even behind voids there is still some noise in there, listen to it

got reminded of a lyric
"How can you look into the abyss you are made of
If you eradicate stillness from your sight
If you would listen to the true voice of silence
The surrounding noise would speak your tongue"
interesting how its the same idea

i have to go now unfortunately

good luck on your journey, even tho I'm probably too slow to reply

>start getting verbally abused, its not so fun anymore and i feel like hes losing respect for me somehow

im glad you were able to see it early enough atleast..
do you think you got it in you to try to find a friend again eventually?

I'm kinda comfortable in my loneliness sometimes and a friend feels like something I have to maintain regardless if I'm in the mood where I want human connection or the mood where I want to be completely isolated for 3 days straight.
And I understand that people aren't an on and off switch, and that being absent is not a good thing for friendships, but it doesn't change the fact that I'd feel forced to be present even if I don't want to be.

would you still feel that way if you could be completely fully yourself with someone? like i think your presence will take no efforts then

if you could be completely fully yourself with someone?

I'm not sure if I'm mentally capable of doing that.

would you still feel that way

but I probably would, I don't like being "visible" and don't like "physically existing" sometimes.

i see..
i said it cos while normally im a complete recluse and felt drained to be with people, i suddenly wanted to constantly be with one person whom i felt i could be fully myself with, so maybe you didn't find someone like that yet?