How do you flirt, please provide a step by step guide for an autist, don't leave anything open or I have to ask, don't assume I know anything about it.
How do you flirt, please provide a step by step guide for an autist, don't leave anything open or I have to ask...
You bat your eyelids at them, make physical contact, hold extensive eye contact, change your tone of voice, close the distance
You be to hold to perceptions simultaneously in your mind. Also you must feel at least somewhat of a looks match, so you can have the confidence.
One perception of being normal, and one of being subtly horny.
Idk but apparently if I talk to a woman I'm flirting and if I talk to a guy I'm gay...
I said please leave nothing open.
What if they look away? What if they react bad when I touch them? For how long is extensive? How should I change my tone? How close do you mean?
I also I more mean online since irl is very scary for me.
i can only flirt on text. irl is still a mystery
Nta, it's inside your instincts. You don't have to think about growing your hair do you?
Did you mean two? What do you mean by that? Please don't be vauge I said step by stept guide.
Ok I get the looksmatch one but how come more ugly guys can flirt with pretty girls and get away with it?
But what if I scare her away with being horny? What I want love and not sex?
That is strange idk what you mean by that.
Why not just try and be direct so as to filter out women who care about how socially apt you are?
Well how do you do that?
Sure but I am blund and that would just scare her away I don't want that. I want to do in a more subtle way. Also socializing is not part of my instinct.
idk what you mean by that
Idk but maybe just be attractive to men and women. I just talk to ppl and I get accused of flirting.
Because I don't want to go after sluts and I have heard you have to flirt with women or otherwise they will friendzone you.
Well how do you do that?
I had a script for getting nudes from a girl on text. it only works if she likes how you look
Did you mean two?
Ye
What do you mean by that? Please don't be vauge I said step by stept guide.
Flirting is walking the edge between horny and normal. It's a "vibe" thing, ie like how you vibe with friends. If she vibes with you, it'll be ovb.
Ok I get the looksmatch one but how come more ugly guys can flirt with pretty girls and get away with it?
What?
But what if I scare her away with being horny? What I want love and not sex?
If she is cool with the flirting she won't be scared away
You mean physically attractive? I can try that but I don't think this is enough. I mean my genes only can go that far and plastic surgery is a bit extreme I think.
Sure but I am blund
You can't be, unless she is. And she will have to warn up to you normally to also be blunt.
Walk in front of the object of desire and stare at her.
Don't say anything, just stare. Wait until she opens her mouth and shake your head the second she tries to get a word out. This is vital, as you don't want her to assume she has vocal authority.
Keep staring, don't break eye contact and get your phone out.
Unlock it, obviously without averting your glance, and give her your desired form of contact (instagram, facebook messenger, whatsapp, your number), so she can put her number inside.
Wait until she's done, smile, and walk away.
I grew a beard and shaved my head. Maybe that will help. I also did extensive therapy and then got a job where I was forced to be around ppl and learned the hard way of what I can and can not say.
Okay but I don't want nudes I want a gf. Does that also work to get a gf?
What?
Like I have said how come more ugly guys can flirt successfully with women, I have seen it. They are not good looking so they are not a looksmatch.
If she is cool with the flirting she won't be scared away
Okay but how can I make sure she's okay with it? Any examples I can use to test things?
You're probably never going to be good at flirting. You'll only get a woman if she's interested in dating an autistic person.
But I am that is just how I am, I am not a smooth talker sorry.
Please no baits thank you.
I think beards look bad on me since I have a good chin. Also most women like hair don't they? Women look at me when I go outside and I get nervous from it.
I think therapy is a scam and they will only lie and gaslight you.
I am not changing my job, it is comfy and I make good money with it.
Like I have said how come more ugly guys can flirt successfully with women, I have seen it. They are not good looking so they are not a looksmatch.
They've developed delusional confidence.
Okay but how can I make sure she's okay with it?
You can literally never fully know. Women can lie as easily as they breath. You just have to try again and again, taking note of what works for you and what doesn't
Okay I understand that, I know my limitations this is why I try to find an autistic woman. But they are still women so you have to flirt with them not to be put into the friendzone. I wish I could just treat them normaly and then when we become a pair I can try and flirt with them but I know this is not how it works.
But I am that is just how I am, I am not a smooth talker sorry.
It is inside you. It's woven into your dna
I don't wanna put in actual work
More pussy for the rest of us I guess. Rofl
They've developed delusional confidence.
Okay but it seem to work, not that I would ever do that.
You just have to try again and again
I don't like that, I don't think exposure therapy is that effective but it can help a bit. They are basically just telling me to mask while talking with someone I don't want that.
I don't like that
It's not exposure therapy, it's called learning
That is factily not even true, the only thing that is part of my dna is the reproduction drive. Being able to talk in a charmant and smooth way is not part of my dna. I think you don't understand what autism is here.
If you don't to give me any viable advice then you can leave my thread it is okay.
you're not gonna get a gf without flirting. it's one way to get a gf and know if she's into you.
conversations are like chess matches, there's certain standard openings, certain moves, certain responses that will put you in a better position. if your goal is to make a girl fall in love with you you gotta make moves that improve that position.
I will smash your beta male face in
Sure but failing over and over again without any change in result is just stupid.I don't want to do cold approaches, since I don't even know if she has a bf, or if we share even anything in common. I don't want mindless sex I want a relationship. I have tried to flirt online a little bit and it was okay but the girl in question said I look good so it was not any work at all on my side.
I don't think you understand me. If I knew how to do that I would have a gf and not post on Anon Babble.
This is why I am making a thread asking for a step by step guide. You are way too vague here.
I don't think you could but whatever makes you happy man.
That is factily not even true
Wrong
Sure but failing over and over again without any change in result is just stupid
How can you know if you've never tried? I know I'm alone BECAUSE I've tried.
It also taught me to care less about what others think and trying hard is with it
the step by step guide is 'try random shit, note down if it works. if a certain line of conversation goes further than last time, note it down, save it for the next girl. optimize and iterate'
Wrong
It is you are just making things up. Boys who have grown up with wolves for example could not talk at all and often never learned how to.
How can you know if you've never tried?
I said I did try but I want a guide how to do subtle.
That is not what a step by step guide is but okay.
Boys who have grown up with wolves for example could not talk at all and often never learned how to.
Literally me btw
I said I did try but I want a guide how to do subtle.
SeeAlso literally me
Literally me btw
I doubt that but I understand enough about normal socializing that you don't mean it literally.
See
Then we are going back to the same question I had. Just tell me how I probe a bit and see if she like what I say the best way.
you have to build your own step by step guide
that you don't mean it literally.
Human wolves though. And also forced isolation as a 3 year old
Just tell me how I probe a bit and see if she like what I say the best way.
You are asking me how you should see which shade of blue is your favorite. If you have zero clue what constitutes subtle for you, you have to throw the day in the dark first. Understand women are always trying to flirt with someone theythink it's attractive enough
That is a lot of work, I could also try and build my own car but I rather go into a dealership and buy one since there are companies out there who can do that far better far cheaper. So I am simply asking if someone who knows about that a bit can give me some guidance points.
Sorry to hear that but most children develop speech after the first year.
But that is a lot of risk, I think some examples would be best so I gauge at least how I could do it theoretically.
Understand women are always trying to flirt with someone theythink it's attractive enough
So you are saying just become attractive? Then how come unattractive men have gfs? And don't come me with betabux please.
I developed speech around 5, and self conscious speech around 16
But that is a lot of risk
Yep
So you are saying just become attractive?
Partially. Like 50% for your self confidence, and 50 so she is attracted to you.
I will punch you in the mouth n then duck your oneitis, your mom, your sister, and your grandma in front of you
I'm a sperg too. Normally, I try to start a conversation about whatever she might be interested in. If she's got a Genshin Impact phone case, for example, then I'll try starting a conversation with her about my limited knowledge on Genshin Impact. Sometimes, I might even compliment her hair or choice of clothes. Sadly, it still never works for me, though, because I'm also short and unattractive.
That is a lot of work
yes and now you're asking me to do it for you so how about KILL YOURSELF
And you still had a gf? That is tough to hear and gives me a bit hope. I know how it is to be neglected by your parents so I hope you are alright anon. I just fear to listen to my instincts a lot since I tend to feel a lot and this had often lead to bad things for me.
I already explained you why this risk is too high for me. But I can try online maybe.
I had girls who said I was attractive online and flirting with them was so easy since I could say basically anything within reason and they liked it. But I can't count on that always thats why I am making this thread. I want to flirt with a nice good girl one who is not primarily driven by sex all the time.
Please write your power fantasy somewhere else, maybe use some chatbot thank you.
I do that too and I like it when the girl has something in common with me so I can talk with her about it. I actually like talking but only if it is something I like. But she can do that with a friend too so you have to do more to make her your gf.
I am not short or unattractive so sorry.
You can always leave my thread if you don't like me or what I write, I force nobody in here to talk with me. Not my fault you can't read I wrote it out in my OP text. I think you are not that smart.
I can teach you but I won't be doing it for free you know :) *honks your wiener"
like it when the girl has something in common with me
Weak
I am not short or unattractive
Ya. Ok bud
Have you heard about this new magic pill that makes you talk to women easily?
Sorry no interest.
I hate drugs and I have I want a relationship not mindless sex. A relationship means you have to like each other for more than a day and build up something together. Ideally I want to marry one day.
I think you are not that smart
smart enough to get a gf while you can't
cope seethe dilate touch grass kys L+ratio
There no correlation between high iq and being able to get a gf, it is even the opposite. Also you post here so not sure how much of a win that is. You could do anything else yet waste your time talking with me.
And you still had a gf?
I've had more than you... learning to walk is terrifying until it's so easy you don't think about it
I don't want to argue about that, this thread has devoled into something I did not want. I just wanted some steps I can follow but only one anons did that, I guess fpbp is always true lol.
I have other things to do so I will leave my thread. Thanks to every anon who tried to help me see you around.
There no correlation between high iq and being able to get a gf, it is even the opposite.
the opposite of no correlation? retard you don't even know what the words you're using mean
Right over your head.