How did you parents fail you?

Yeah but now you can just get a Switch and play SNES, Genesis and N64 games with their original controllers (they're technically new controllers but you get the point).

my father was super strict and anal about everything, constantly beating and belittling me. it might have been justifiable if he wasn't a fucking massive loser himself. no job in my lifetime, just being an obnoxious useless nigger. he never taught me anything or gave a shit about me. having to figure out the world with no positive male influences was difficult.

What im saying is theres little we can do when the economy is horseshit

If my situation was like this I would've ended up
and getting my own gaming PC after like a month or two, instead of having it gifted to me just for near perfect grades in school.
You don't get to be all woe is me I never got play video games unless you were in a real ass third world country that couldn't even keep the lights on back then.

terrible genes

brother got even worse genes (he's retarded and it's mostly up to me to care for him)

genes so bad that dad is already dead and mom has dementia

If I had a time machine I would use it to kill my mom.

probably the worst thing they did to me was give me their shitty genes, and now I'm bald at 35

I was raised to be a fucking pussy

My mom killed my 15 year old cat by forcing morpheme down its mouth, which she just had onhand because she stole it from her brother's deathbed. Poor thing died in my arms in the driveway, after a lifetime together. I think she wanted to play nurse instead of going to the vet. Anyway, how was you guys' mothers day?

Anyone that makes a tard should be ashamed. I don't know why we don't kill these things at the first signs.

My parents consented to my doctor putting me on various medications because I had autism. It ended up stunting my growth. I'm now 5 foot 11 at 21. My dad is 6 foot 1.

If you avoided getting put on the stims you might've grown to the full 6'1", but you could have also ended up fat as FUCK negating that advantage during the most crucial time of your youth.

My parents divorced at ~4 and I went back and forth, until my dad found some desperate greencard hunter and decided she and her daughter were his new normal complete nuclear family. He and his new family disappeared to some south american shithole, and I was stuck full time with my opiate addict psychobitch mom. I was kicked out of my own home. I didn't even get the opportunity to pack anything, I was just dropped off and never picked up again, without explanation. I lost everything. I never even got to say goodbye to my dog. He was completely average until then, it was such a mindfuck how he changed in a few mere months of meeting this woman. Something must be deeply wrong with me if even my own father doesn't care about me anymore. Was I such a disappointment, that whole time? If my own father can leave me behind, no personal connection is safe anymore. Attachment issues, haha. Very classic stuff.

My mom was a neurotic narcissist. My dad was too worn down to care

constantly penny pinching over the most random things

She'd buy expensive shoes, waste money on all sorts of frivolous shit. The moment I asked for a guitar or any kind of hobbyist equipment its a huge struggle and fight. If she wanted an expensive dinner we she would get it, if I wanted new clothes it was a big issue. We weren't poor. She would buy 1k cowboy boots one day then have a total melt down over my dad suggesting we get refrigerator thats 1k dollars more expensive than the cheapest option.
This led to me feeling as though we were in a very unstable economic household so I felt like I needed to support them by penny pinching. I never built any hobbies or skills. I chose to go to public school because I remembered her having a melt down over my brothers college tuition. I would wear clothes until they were tattered messes because I wanted to lessen my burden on them.

She would have full on temper tantrums right in front of me. I will never forget the day she was literally screaming at the top of her lung bouncing up and down with both legs slamming on the floor over some minor thing.

She was also nuerotic

house remodel

ask dad what color walls should be

doesn't like the answer

comes up with her own choices but still indecisive

asks dad for opinion on new choices

he picks option 1

reject his opinion while still considering the option

feels bad for rejecting his opinion so she asks again

he picks every other option

she rejects every other option because she's indecisive

dad gives up and just tells her to pick whatever she wants

she gets angry that he doesn't want to be a part of the proccess

Zero work experience means your resume goes straight into the trash for majority of employers ai that filters applications

how did you fail your parents

Lmfao you faggots are 25+ blaming your parents.

She would have full on temper tantrums right in front of me. I will never forget the day she was literally screaming at the top of her lung bouncing up and down with both legs slamming on the floor over some minor thing.

This is real mom behavior. I had the same exact shit, dude. Emotional instability is repulsive. You can't even react to their screaming the slightest amount, or suddenly you're the emotional one. Walking on eggshells for 18 years. She would be batshit pissed for no reason, then go find something to yell at me for so she could have something to take it out on. I was her verbal punching bag. Moms are entitled cunts. I can't stand people with nice families, only crazy shit like this makes someone sound like a real person to me.

Hey dude can I remind you my mom killed my cat. In my arms. Good for you and your happy normie family, but you have no perspective here.

live in a town that's basically an exurb

need to be able to drive to do anything in life that's not within walking distance

drags feet so much about getting me a driver's license that end up not getting it till I turned 25

everyone blames me when I brought up how fucked up that was

Man, I just wanted a job and maybe go to college after high school. Instead I got mental health issues.

Should have just walked and hitchhiked to get to the DMV at 18 desu. Literally the only helpful advice I ever got on this was more or less 'go homeless'.

probably by making me in the first place, I have shit genetics.

Seriously, normies fucking hate mentally ill people anyways, the only thing stopping them is eugenics being "le bad"

literal first world problems, cry harder man

in basic terms, not teaching me how the world works, most importantly really basic shit like school hierarchy how the progression works, not making me start and finish the latter parts of hs, not giving me the support I needed to get my basic survival skills in society up and running so I don't get fucked up
because of the above becoming unhireable
and me having no desire to do any of it and just drifting well it's kind of regrettable, sets you back decades in life, really
I'm close to 40 and my life has not reached baseline stability yet

I'm close to 40 and my life has not reached baseline stability yet

Stability seems like a luxury nowadays, shit is rough out there. Hope we make it, Anon

Oh womp womp your mom abuses animals so you're a useless retard as a result

not really, everyone has jobs and money and are living normie lives, the vast majority are atleast
I mean basic stability as in have a degree/job/car/live in your place, literally just this
I need cash flow, about it, only thing
working on it but yeah it's been a nightmare and might continue to be
way too much problems to overcome, most of them mental probably due to things could have been fixed faster but seemed impossible
there is for sure a thing about being critically demoralized so bad you are just depressed

Well, it didn't do nothing!

you faggots are 25+ blaming your parents.

Yes.
Consider the following scenario. hypothetical.
Guy grows up with no father, gets into crime, lands himself a life time sentence.
Nigga ages 25+
You (now): "lmao imagine blaming your parents 25+"
when his upbringing was what literally cause it

parents are THE most important factor, nothing even comes close

Making me be born in this shitty world and this shitty dysfunctional family

The cause and effect should be obvious, but I think these guys just want something normie to gloat about in this mongolian basket weaving forum.

nooooo you can't just blame obvious factors for your dysfunction brain, only brown people, women, and faggots are allowed to be victims!!

>Didn't make me get a job at 14 like other kids,

I don't think too many parents were forcing their kids to get a job at 14, OP. In fact I don't know if any teenagers are working after-school jobs anymore, where I live all the jobs you used to see white teenagers doing are now done by middle-aged immigrants.

I had the reverse problem. When I was a kid all the other kids got a generous "allowance", but my dad was a cheap bastard and told me if I wanted money I should get a job. (Like being a full-time student in in elementary school wasn't a job.) I used to think he was trying to make me self-reliant but looking back I eventually realized it was just pure sadism on his part. I had a paper-route a couple of times, delivering newspapers for a pittance, but like you my parents kept moving around so that didn't last. Then when I started highschool the country went into a "recession". I remember one time seeing a girl I knew from school working at the local McDonalds. She seemed kind of embarrased to see me but I said "Oh hey, I put in a job application here myself! Maybe we'll be co-workers!" She lauged and said "Well don't hold your breath, we have a stack of those filled-out applications two feet high!" I asked her how she managed to get the job and she said "Just lucky I guess". I suspect it didn't hurt that she was a pretty teenage girl and I was a dorky kid with coke-bottle glasses. (I'd asked my dad if I could have contact lenses for my birthday, and he told me if I wanted some luxury item like that I needed to get a job and start saving. Keep in mind we lived in an affluent neighbourhood and this guy was literally a millionaire.)

Another time I walked for miles (to save the busfare my dad had given me for job hunting) to the big grocery store to apply for a job bagging groceries or stocking shelves. They actually had a huge sign on the billboard in front of the store saying NOT HIRING. Just those two words in bold black print on a white background.

My parents sit in the kitchen all day annoying the ever living shit out of me. If I ever want food their right there trying to talk to me and literally staring at me the entire time.

martial arts would have done nothing for you toothpick

you should have chow downed instead of thinking ching chong would've saved you, weight classes exist for a reason

You don't have any dysfunction manchild, at least not any putting you below the browns and foids since you think you're superior to them.

your brain isn't broken because... something... something... there are plenty of people who...

shut the fuck up

Yeah, at 14 I actually WANTED a part time gig so I could get that sweet sweet ass Gaming PC. I starved myself at lunch so I wouldn't spend my allowance and I eventually saved up a couple hundred, not even close to enough for a full rig though. Got it until 18 yo.

by being snobby losers. I don't know how to make friends because no child my parents saw was good enough for me to them. every conversation about a kid I got along with just became a conversation about how they didn't like the kid's parents, or how the boy stained his jacket on a field trip, or how the girl looked like a dyke.

[continued...]
So I turned around and trudged back home. When I got back of course my dad asks me how it went at the grocery store and asks if I got to talk to the manager. (Truly a boomer-handshake moment in real life.) I told him they had a huge billboard in the parking lot that said "NOT HIRING", so I didn't even bother going inside. He seemed disgusted by this answer and told me "There's work out there for people who want it enough." I asked if there was any jobs I could get where he worked, like filing or shelving. (He was in senior management where he worked.) He told me "No, if I hired you that would be nepotism."

Naturally this eventually led to me sinking into depression, and my marks at school took a nosedive. My dad pretended to believe that his treatment of me couldn't possibly have anything to do with that and sent me to a psychologist, then kicked me out of the house. I ended up staying with relatives until I finally got a minimum wage job and moved into my own shitty little apartment. But the thing is, even living in a shitty little apartment and working a crappy job felt like heaven compared to living with my dad and stepmother and being a social outcast in school.

So yeah, sorry for the blogpost. Parents can really fuck you up, and sometimes they do it deliberately.

I had a somewhat similar issue: to participate in literally any hobby, I had to spend months researching it, coming up with plans for what all I needed, and bringing all the logistics and knowledge into a pitch at the dinner table (he was a faggot Harvard MBA with the spirit of twenty jeets) only to have maybe a 1 in 3 chance of my father agreeing to what HE thought the shit was.
And I wasn't ever allowed to just stop doing shit, either. If I ever got bored of my (free, carpooled, requiring literally zero involvement from him) running club that I showed up to 4-6 times a week for several years straight, he would try to punish me some other way.

I still ended up fat as fuck.

Why is anne hathaway working in HR?

They had a messy divorce where they both acted like retarded teens, while I was a retarded teen who needed a stable family environment.

always neglected me

punish me for making mistakes

unmonitored internet access at 6

socially isolate me at 10

never let me interact with kids my age

never let me have any form of independence until I was nearly 18

gaslights me and tries to convince me I had a normal childhood like everyone else

Having a father is one one the most useless traits of being raised right

Im sorry for your loss.

this reminds me mine forced me to give my cat away when i was little despite the situation being workable. Sterilisation and not being a nigger to her would probably stop her from marking what she saw as hostile territory. Now she is saying that if the other ones "get too expensive" euthanasia is the way, i think she is joking but cmon man. I just think go to the vet man. a little over 1k in medical bills over a cats lifetime is nothing.

My mother is probably doing what she can when it comes to family but how can you make these heartless jokes? Aren't they family too? What is it with parents and pets that just makes me so sad. And then she complains that i forgot mothers day.

that plus our cats being more of an side hustle and the young lings not having good survival chances.

Is there even forgiveness? After my parents divorced the bad influence that was my father went away and so did most of her negative behaviors but still. This just the pet saga, lots more i could complain about.

I overcame it and got out of inceldom/Neetdom, but their decisions made my life more difficult me

Juices and sodas as a kid

I never drank any again once I turned 15

believing a the karate instructor and making me give up

moved to a smallcomplex in the countryside when I was 11 to save money.

It was full of inner city filth and paupers

moved me from an easy school to a more difficult school, none of the classes were helpful it was just a better school because the overall scores were better overall. They had unnecessary amount of homework from 6-8th grade, then basically gave no homework all throughout high school

moved to nice house in the same town in my senior year, but said town had no jobs unless you were a girl

got dial-up internet for a few months when I was in 8th grade, but then ditched it because were were in the countryside and it was too expensive

the provider was the next county over

got cable internet when I was in my senior year

didn't tell me that women respected strength and cash more than anything more so than status

didn't push me as hard to get my drivers license and I could only take it once a month in towns that were 35 miles away in the same county. I ended up getting it at 19

Despite buying me a car, they didn't let me have it let me drive it to college because I lived in a city with not much in terms of parking

encouraged me to come home after college despite that town not having any jobs at all

Someone in my field hired me for two years that was a twenty miles away
Someone from overseas who didn't care about where I lived got me out of that town five years after I had graduated though. No part time job would hire me

Pros

never had a cavity till I was 35

never did drugs

dad introduced me to comics and video games early which set me on the right career path

getting me any artistic asset I needed no matter how expensive

payed for anything no matter how expensive

got me a passport early

Yeah, my mom got a dog on a whim "because she was lonely and needed a friend" and then never did anything with him (besides yell at me to do all the work of feeding/washing/walking). Then like a year or two later she got a shitty little rescue chihuahua (still lonely! huh!), and I swear that's the only living thing she hadn't neglected to a suspended state of half death. Dirty fishtank where everything dies, bird stuck in a dirty cage all day completely ignored. "This one can sit in my lap all day and I can pet him awwww" and just like that, the other dog ceased to exist to her. Maybe having all these pets made her feel like a "caregiver" or some other woman bullshit. She was playing house with real lives at her mercy, all that mattered was that she got to have fun pretending to play the "Mom" character.

Having a father is one one the most useless traits of being raised right

I'm not quite sure what you mean by that, fren. If you read my follow-up post I thought I made it clear I wasn't "raised right".
I wish I hadn't come to this thread and opened up this whole can of worms. But of course it's not like when I got a shit job and a tiny apartment my life turned out happily ever after either.

dad introduced me to comics and video games early which set me on the right career path

getting me any artistic asset I needed no matter how expensive

payed for anything no matter how expensive

What the fuck are you complaining about? It sounds like your upbringing was close to perfect and you turned out great!

Another thing that makes me question my relationship to her is that she likes to complain that we "don't have money" to do proper vet visits but when she wants to go to some tourist trap for some reason oh look, money! Her reasoning for the need of travel is that "she is getting old and has never seen anything" but is somehow surprised that a little bicycle trip away are nice locations but she never knew that they were there. Never saw anything? She didn't even look. Im 99% sure its her browsing instagram or some other stupid shit and seeing that other have "proper" lives.
I still remember my cat having rotting teeth and gums in an insanely bad state. When the money suddenly appeared out of thin air and we had to give him meds before a surgery i had to force feed him pills, which hurt him insanely as you can't just open a mouth like that and expect it not to hurt.
And when it turns out that last minute healthcare is expensive its "its euthanasia next time xD"
She is getting better as a person but how can you be so clueless.
I also remember this, our neighbor abused his dog all the time as it was chained to some pole. he threw rocks at it and other things to provoke it and laugh at it. My mother then gave us a lecture about animal abuse and why its bad, while being one herself and together with her husband also child abusers.
Im still so conflicted about all of this.