Have you ever edated?

Anyone else ever read your old sexting and cringe about the stupid fucking shit you say when you're horny?

I consider the cringe to be a necessary evil for relationships to work.

it's only cringe if the relationship doesn't work out (or if it's casual)

edated

What's the fucking point? Dating means meeting in person. A relationship means nothing if there is no physical connection going on.

yes but it was before existence of discord.

its always cringe, especially if you are kinky and enjoy bdsm type play.

You created an arbitrary idea of human relationships to fit your narrow world view.

Yes I did two times both times I got ghosted after a few months even after they told me they love and we talked every day. I like in theroy because it is the only way for me to find a girl because of my autism and being shy. It is just that women will not see it as a real relationship and just dump and ghost you.

ghosted after a few months even after they told me they love and we talked every day.

I got ghosted after flying out and MEETING my ex, FUCKING HER, and HAVING DINNER WITH HER PARENTS.

She's the kind of wretched whore she would have gone dark and TRIED to ghost me even if I lived in the same city. Long distance makes it easier but narcissists will do fucked up shit regardless of distance so you just need to learn to select for girls with functioning empathy (impossible)

They both seemed to have empathy I don't know how to filter this out if they are nice and sweet and open to me all the time and always talk to me. It just came out of nowhere.

ive never sexted because my self awareness is admin level and beats the horny before it gets out of control

I had one relationship from when I was 15 to 16, and ever since then I've exclusively e-dated. I'm in my 30s. I don't even know how to meet or talk to girls in real life and express romantic interest. My most successful e-relationship was with an American girl for 4 years. I flew over there multiple times, she flew here a couple times, we went to Japan together once. It was nice.

nice and sweet and open to me all the time and always talk to me

vulnerable narcissist love bombing is like this, too

the only way to tell for sure is over time. Watch for consistency. If they ghost you in only a couple months consider yourself lucky you didn't waste years on a false positive.

i do this because im alone and shes the only one thats given me attention. i know its all fake, and nothing will happen. but its fun to suspens reality for a little whenever we dm. lol.

Or I just go outside and establish in-person physical relationships.

ok gigachad good for you

Do you not fear if she leaves you or starts talking to other guys behind your back? Mine has set her status to invisible for a while now

Mine has set her status to invisible for a while now

why do you tolerate and nurture this behavior?

Nope. Waste of fucking time.
Already had enough of that shit back in the Yahoo Messenger days.
If she's not in my city, and I can't fuck her, there is no point.
Sadly, I get no takers from my city who go the distance. I want to die.

Because I'm retarded. Tried to break up but somehow she declined and now she's ghosting

I don't know what that means, Anon.
I traded nudes with one, it definitely wasn't a man.

I see what you mean now, that's funny.

no one wants to talk to me. even online

Unfortunately, yes.
It was my first and only time however.
I am not against trying and making a LDR again, but it has to be somebody who is financially and emotionally somewhat stable. And that person was neither of those. Not even close even.
We are in the same time zone, but her sleeping schedule was so screwed up, I basically didn't hear from her until the afternoon or midday.
Basically I ended up learning a lot about red flags and what I DON'T want in a (real) relationship.

Very much correct.
Yes, it might be weird to others, but for you two it's hot and that's all that matters.
If you get embarrassed afterwards, that's a (You) issue.

Narcs and avoidants who let themselves get into romantic relationships are the bane of everybody's existence

Not gonna lie, dating an avoidant while being an avoidant is kinda nice, at least in the honeymoon phase. After that it feels like two bottoms waiting for eachother.

two avoidants

I guesd that can work out if both aren't gonna fix themselves.

narcissistic/avoidant people fill me with the kind of rage I've only seen normies have for pedophiles, I want to actually fucking put them in a woodchipper foot first

t. the most fucking anxiously attached person you'll ever meet

That's a bit much.
Child fuckers are obviously worse on average. Though many rapists might be narcs anyway.
Avoidants are ok if they keep to themselves and understand them being lonely is better for humanity.

Why do people hate avoidants so much? We just trying to manage our emotions out here in the world

because they cant manage theirs.

I e-dated before e-dating was a thing. Before Discord was invented. Way back in 2013 I think. Met a chick on Minecraft and used Skype and Kik to talk to her.

I'd say I do well with my emotions. I always message people back, I try to occasionally message people, but also give them space, I don't sperg out if I don't get what I want.

However, I know I'm unwanted in the world and so my personality changed to reflect this. I'm not proud of being an avoidant, but any other attachment personality would drive me insane.

vulnerable narcissist faggot